Did Jesus teach that we should hate our parents?

Did Jesus teach to hate

In the world, counselors and recovering addicts tell us to put people who do those things that we need to stop doing, out of our life completely, or we will fall back into it.

Jesus says this about those who don't love Him, even if they're family:

Matt 19:29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother , or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.

Luke 14:26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother , and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple. 27 And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.

This does not literally mean to hate your family, it means to put God first and love Him more than you love your family, and if your family does not love the Lord and are disobedient to Him, we should not make excuses for them, but should put them out of our lives for the Lords sake.

Jesus simply requires us to love Him more than our family! This is the point of His teaching here.

Matt 10:37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.

And, just like an addict must remove from themselves all those who would tempt them to go back to the thing that has them so beset, we as Christians should remove from ourselves all those who would tempt us to sin and go back to the world and the life that beset us before we knew Christ!

1 Cor 5:6 Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump? 7 Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:

Allowing wickedness among ourselves is like old leaven in a loaf of bread, as Paul admonished the Corinthians.  It will pollute the whole loaf of bread unless we purge it out.

Especially if anyone in our family professes to know the Lord, we should not have anything to do with them if they are living in willful sin!

1 Cor 5:9 I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually immoral people. 10 Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. 11 But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner — not even to eat with such a person. 12 For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? 13 But those who are outside God judges. Therefore "put away from yourselves the evil person."

2 Thess 3:13 But as for you, brethren, do not grow weary in doing good. 14 And if anyone does not obey our word in this epistle, note that person and do not keep company with him, that he may be ashamed. 15 Yet do not count him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.

We have a couple of really good examples of this way of thinking in the Bible:

2 Chron 15:16 And also concerning Maachah the mother of Asa the king, he removed her from being queen, because she had made an idol in a grove: and Asa cut down her idol, and stamped it, and burnt it at the brook Kidron.

Notice that king Asa removed his mother from being queen because she was doing evil?

And take a look at the wrong-doing of Eli the priest:

1 Sam 2 contains the story of Eli the priest who had two sons that did not know the Lord (v.12). These two sons made merchandise of the offerings brought to the Temple (v.29) and used their position and power to prey upon the women who came to the temple (v.22). Now, Eli rebuked them verbally (v.23-25), but the Lord knew that he put his sons above the Lord and didn't MAKE them stop, and even partook with them (v.29). His verbal rebuke meant nothing to God because he didn't do what was right and stop the evil from happening (1 Sam 3:13).

We should never make excuses for people just because they're family. Never.

Luke 6:46 And why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the things which I say?

John 14:15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.

1 John 2:3 And hereby we do know that we know him, if we keep his commandments. 4 He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.


Eph 5:6 Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.

We need to be obedient to God in all things, not just some things, and the false teachings of today's apostate church need to be purged from our lives!

Always obey the Bible and check every mans words against the Word of God. Never compromise for your pastor, your Christian friends, your family, anyone. Always put God first!

A good example of using the whole Bible and not taking things out of context is in Ephesians. People love to quote chapter 6 (especially parents to their children) to say they can only have long life if they honor and obey their father and mother. Eph 6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” But if we read this in context within the letter Paul wrote, he’s talking about ceasing from sin starting in chapter 4, putting off our old life for our new life in the Lord, loving and forbearing one another in meekness and unity (specifically speaking of the body of Christ, which is people who love God). Don’t be deceived, and reminding us of the wrath of God which He will pour out on the children of disobedience. Don’t be a drunk, but be filled with the Spirit, submitting ourselves to each other in the fear of God. Wives submitting to her husband in every thing, and husbands loving and cherishing their wives even as Christ loves His people and gave Himself for us. Then, he continues with “Children, obey your parents…”, and then admonishing fathers not to provoke their children to wrath but nurturing them and admonishing them as the Lord does us. He’s speaking of obedience to a Godly father that “it may be well with you”, and you will not be put to death. We cannot take this as a promise of long life simply by honoring our parents. More so, it would be reminding us of the words of Jesus in Mat 15:4 “For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.” This is a reminder of Exodus 21:17 in the Old Testament Law, where the command is to put them to death. Exo 21:17 “And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.” And Deut 5:16 "Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee." It is not a promise of long life in the sense of a long, healthy and happy life. But at the same time, "honoring" a Godly parent is not the same thing as obeying and remaining subject to a wicked parent when we become adults. We are under no command to continue with a parent who does not love God. Don't curse them, don't revile them, rather pray for them, but we do not have to remain subject to them in this case. Remember Asa. In conclusion, it's most certain that Paul is not saying we must put a child to death, or that it will ensure long life, but rather he's reminding children of the importance in God's eyes of honoring your parents.